Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Getting the Kids Up

(The following great advice is useful year round, but especially as we try to re-establish routines at home for the beginning of school. It is provided by the National School Public Relations Association. )

Getting children up and ready for the day, whether it be for school,
daycare, or even a sport or enrichment activity, is a sure-fire stress
builder and typical cause of morning madness. What can parents
do to start each day in a positive fashion?

™™ Make the morning routine a way of life.
Parents unwittingly cause morning madness by not instilling
that the routine is a family requirement and not an option. A
non-negotiable routine must be established, and consequence
discussed and determined.

™™ Stagger wake-up times.
If you’ve got more than one child in the house, and especially if
you have a large family, consider staggering wake-up times for
greater efficiency. Start with children who need assistance first,
or the ones who are real sleepyheads and move at a snail’s pace
come mornings.

™™ Conquer clothing wars with proper planning.
Clothing, down to clean socks, underwear and shoes, and even
matching hair accessories should be laid out each night before
bed. Youngsters can play a role in choosing the outfit, but no
changes are allowed once their head hits the pillow. And, then
stick with it! The only exceptions should be an unknown tear
or stain, or surprise change in the weather. This avoids missing
socks, unmatched shirt and shoes, and keeps getting dressed a
simple step in beginning the day vs. a looming battle.

™™ Determine breakfast choices in advance.
Some parents swear by weekly breakfast menus; others
adhere to cereal and fruit. Yet others have their children eat
the $1 breakfast at school each morning. Some daycares offer
breakfast; others allow parents to bring in a morning meal.
Breakfast is important. Some experts argue that it is the most
important meal of the day. Children need a nutritious start
each morning, but that start shouldn’t put parents in a work
bind or make children late for school.

™™ Only do what’s really important.
Some parents unwittingly set their children up to fail with
their morning routines by taking on unexpected chores and
duties, which causes whines and a mad rush to end up on
time. Consider creating a checklist of what absolutely must be
done each morning, and then forget the rest. If you want your
child to make his or her bed every morning, then make that a
requirement. However, cleaning the cat box can surely wait
until a child gets home after school.

™™ Recognize the snatch and go theory does work.
It’s just not enough to get dressed and eat. How many times
have children missed the bus because they couldn’t find their
homework sheet or didn’t have their backpack put together? If you
drive your children, then put their organized backpacks in the car the
night before. Lunches should also be prepared just before bed and easily
grabbed from the fridge the next morning. Jackets should be in a central
location. The “snatch and go” theory really does work in the mornings.
Designate an area for all essentials that can eliminate the crazed
morning syndrome when you’re trying to leave. Shoes, backpacks, car
keys, cell phones, purses, etc., should be placed in this area every day,
always, so they are always in place and ready for action. Keep a cell
phone charger in this area so your phone is charged for the day. Not
having to hunt down keys or other last-minute essentials is a time and
blood pressure saver, for sure.

™™ Plan an occasional exception morning.
One way to make it easier for children to get up in the mornings is to
create an occasional “kids get up...NOT” day as a reward. If it’s a school
holiday, lazy weekend opportunity, or just about any reason at all,
parents can make a special celebration out of the exception. The “not”
day also serves to reinforce the lesson that normal mornings have a
schedule and expectation; and that occasionally everyone gets a break
from the routine.

™™ Instill self responsibility.
Except for the very youngest, children can learn to awaken by an alarm
clock and get themselves up without mom or dad hovering and yelling,
“Are you up yet?” Let them decide what is the best time for the alarm
to go off and get ready on time. If this means Erica doesn’t get her hair
braided or Sam doesn’t get second helpings on cereal, encourage them
to set their alarms 15 minutes earlier for future days. Cause and effect is
a good lesson to learn.

™™ Model good morning behavior.
And, finally, parents really can help to determine whether their children
become morning risers or morning whiners. If parents moan and groan,
are always frantic, grumpy and running late themselves, then how can
they really expect anything more of their children? Good advice is to
get up earlier yourself, start that coffee or do 10 minutes of exercise, and
then show that Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) and really mean it when
you greet your kids with “Good Morning!”

Monday, August 8, 2011

Summer Reading

Some say you can tell a lot about somebody by the books they have stacked on their night stand. My wife and I seem to have the bedroom littered with books. She devours books. I'm more of a snacker, working on 3 or 4 books all at the same time.

Last week, we had all school administrators in for a retreat for three days and I required each to give a book report. That turned out to be a very popular activity. Some read books on leadership. Some shared their favorite crime novel. Some even decided to tell of the favorite book they’ve been reading to their children.

I seem to read a little more in the summer. Maybe going on vacation and relaxing with a good book kind of gets me in gear for it. Anyway, I thought I’d give my own little book report for your consideration. I’m not sure what these titles say about me, but they are my most recent beside readings.

The Art of Racing in the Rain by Garth Stein – Recommended to me by my mother who has turned into a real dog lover, the story is told by Enzo, the family dog. You learn through his eyes how the family fell apart and the role he played in putting it back together. Keep the hanky handy.

A Captains Duty By Richard Phillips - This is the true story told by the captain of a cargo ship over run by Somali Pirates in April 2009. He is eventually taken hostage, spending several days with his captors in a life boat.

Seized by Max Hardberger - (What is it with me and the sea captains?) This is a collection of true stories of a sea captain who specializes in recovering stolen ships in some of the world’s most troubling waters.

Room by Emma Donoghue – (my favorite of the summer) This tale is told from the point of view of a five year old boy who was conceived, born and lived his entire life in a room with his mother who was kidnapped from her college campus at age 19. She has done her best to teach him everything she can in this limited environment. He loves his little world, but she decides to use him in an attempt to escape their captor.

The Johnstown Flood by David McCullough – If you’re a history buff, and I can’t say I ever was, this is a fascinating account of one of the most devastating disasters America has ever known.

That’s enough. There are others in baskets and under the bed I’m sure. Maybe I’ll get to them next summer.

Monday, July 25, 2011

Lake Forest State Fair

How fortunate we are to have the Delaware State Fair in Harrington.

It involves so many of our children and their families in positive, productive, constructive activities; not only for that 10-day period, but often for the entire year. Teachers and staff members get involved as well, whether it’s in the Kids Zone or the Needlepoint Show, Pete’s or the sheep barn - Lake Forest Spartans are everywhere.

We are a rural community with strong agricultural roots and you’ll find many of our people in the show barns. You’ll also see them doing public speaking through 4-H, exhibiting their photography or sewing, and helping out at a family exhibit or church-run food venue. You’ll find a lot of Spartans on the ice rink, too.

I first got to know the state fair experience through 4-H forty years ago. Each summer for four years during college, I worked for West Virginia University Extension. I managed 4-H camps all over the state and finished the summer at the state fair in Lewisburg in August. The first summer I worked in the youth exhibit hall and at night I was assigned to sleep in the loft of the sheep barn to keep an eye on the 4-H and FFA boys who would be using those bunks. There was nothing between us and the sheep, and the general public, but chicken wire.

Those folks that live at the fair all week long are a special breed. You have to love it or you wouldn’t be there. I’m not sure what does it for me -the people, the reunions, the smell of the hay, the funnel cake. I always met girls at the fair. Maybe it was the oppressive heat, the dirt rings around my neck, the smell of manure or the limited opportunity to see to personal hygiene.

You can’t spend any time at the fair without developing some lifelong friends and lifetime memories. Back in my day, the favorite grandstand shows were acts like The Beach Boys, The Statler Brothers and Up With People. Some of my most indelible memories involve finding and reuniting families with lost children, getting knocked over (along with a table full of ribbons and trophies) by a couple of fighting boar hogs, showering through a garden hose next to a Holstein steer and being one of the first ones to walk the grounds as the sun came up on a brisk summer morning.

The Delaware State Fair belongs to everyone in Delaware and we are so lucky to have it right here in our front yard. Sure, it is great for the local economy, but, for the children who spend the week, it is even greater. They learn more about their interests and learn more about themselves than they would in any other environment.

They grow. They gain independence. They become leaders. They learn responsibility. They mature. They become better Spartans. They don’t know it, but they become better students because of the fair.

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Guidance Counselors on the Road

We’re trying something new this summer.

The Lake Forest High School guidance department is making itself available to parents and students out there in the community. They especially want to see the incoming 9th graders. Why?

9th grade can be a difficult year. It can make or break a successful high school experience. Many students experience their first failing grade in 9th grade.
There are a variety of theories as to why this happens:

• Parents have a tendency to let go and monitor school less when kids start high school
• It often means moving to a new, larger environment where relationships with peers and teachers have to be rebuilt
• They are not adequately prepared for the greater academic demand
• High school teachers teach subjects not students

These theories all have merit, but none of them represent the issue totally. Perhaps to some degree, struggles in ninth grade may be due to fractions of any and/or all of the above.

We want to be sure that parents of 9th graders in Lake Forest know that we want you to stay involved. We want you to monitor your student’s progress. The best way to get started is to be sure you connect with the guidance department.

They are available at the Felton Fire Hall July 7 from 4-7pm; at the Frederica Fire Hall on July 12 from 8a.m. to 4p.m.; and at the Harrington Parks and Recreation Center on July 13 from 8-12 and 4-7. You don’t need an appointment, you can just drop in. If you have questions, please call the high school guidance office at 284-9291 ext.210.

We hope you’ll take advantage of this unique opportunity.

Monday, June 13, 2011

Why So Late?

The last day for students this year is June 16. That’s later than usual for us and later than most of the other school districts around us. Why so late?

Remember we started late this year. The first day was Tuesday after Labor Day, September 6. We had several construction projects going on and wanted to be sure they were done.

Of course if you’ve been to the high school this year you know that remodeling both inside and out has continued. Our appreciation goes to the administration, teachers, staff and students for enduring yet another year of disruptions and occasional classroom relocations.

This summer we’ll be undergoing the last piece of remodeling that began with the referendum voters approved in 2006. The newly enclosed courtyard is being painted this week and a beautiful, long lasting, terrazzo floor will be the final step.

The old office area, including principal’s offices, guidance, wellness, nurse, special education, teacher work room is partially gutted now and will be vacated as soon as the staff is done on Friday of this week. That entire area will be redesigned and rebuilt. Front door access to the guidance area will be from the center of the school.

Many of the hallways will get new tile and the last of the brick will be finished on the outside.

Where other districts have moved to tear down 40 year old schools and build new ones that cost 60-80 million dollars, Lake Forest has conservatively breathed new life into its high school with a redesign and upgrade that should make the whole community proud. We’re making plans to show it off at the next I Love Lake Forest Day on October 8.

Next school year we will return to what is a more normal schedule for us. The first day for students will be Monday, August 29, 2011 and the last day will be Friday, June 8, 2012. That’s more like it.

Thursday, June 2, 2011

School Budget Looks Bleak

We’re in the last month for action on the school budget. The Governor presented his budget months ago and it included $36 million in cuts to the public schools. Last September school districts in Delaware received a total of $24 million from the Federal Government aimed at preserving local jobs. It’s called Edjobs money and it can only be used for salaries and fixed costs at the school level. Lake Forest, like most districts, sat on that money to use it to plug holes for next school year – FY12.

As you can see, 24 is significantly smaller than 36, so the hole didn’t get plugged. We have a $12 million dollar hole.

Here’s how this plays out for Lake Forest:

The proposed budget reduces support for school transportation by 10% across the board. For Lake Forest that amounts to $231,200. We have no local control over the actual costs of buses and bus runs because it is all determined by state formula. And the number of buses allowed in the district has always been in the hands of the state transportation office. Edjobs money cannot be used for this. So, our only options are to reduce the number of buses or use $231K of local money to maintain services. Fewer buses on the road mean longer runs and more students on each bus.

The proposed budget cuts $635,000 from Lake Forest by not replacing the loss of federal dollars (Stimulus and stabilization money) that have been used to pay for Education Tax Relief and other former state budgeted initiatives. In Lake Forest we have used this money for a variety of things including School Resource Officers, tutoring and summer school.

Finally, the proposed budget eliminates something called the flexibility block grant which used to be around $350,000 and was slashed last year down to $163,500.

So, Lake Forest is facing a possible loss of $1+ million in a variety of areas and we have $800,000, our share of Edjobs money for this one year. There is no more discretionary money.

All districts have been reducing positions and programs over the last couple of years. Even though we have the same number of students and Race to the Top has added to the work load. Next year will be tough and FY13 will be really ugly.

To add insult to injury, there appears to be a surplus of around $320 million in the Delaware budget right now. The Governor has proposed and the General Assembly seems poised in support to spend it on a lot of 1 shot allocations – roads, buildings, etc. Pretty smart, huh?

I don’t know. I have a prediction. You will soon see a referendum to increase the local school tax to replace the loss of state dollars, not only in Lake Forest but in other districts around the state. We are apparently awash in money with $320 million surplus and $100 million in Race to the Top Funds and districts will be reducing services and slashing more jobs than ever in FY13.

"Water, water everywhere,
And all the boards did shrink
Water, water everywhere
Nor any drop to drink."

from *The Rime of the Ancient Mariner* by Samuel Taylor Coleridge

Friday, May 20, 2011

What do you do when you're mad?

Perhaps it’s the stress of the economy or simply the pressures of the closing of the year. I’ve been getting a few more calls from parents than usual. That’s what I get for being accessible I guess.

I try to return all calls within 24 hours and sometimes, if you catch me in, I am available for those who just drop in.

Why do they come to the superintendent? They're mad. Mad at their child’s teacher. Mad at the coach. Mad at the bus driver. Mad at the principal. Usually their madness is based upon something their child has told them. They presume that their child was 100% accurate in his/her retelling of an event at school in which they believe they were treated unfairly.

It is amazing how many believe going to the top will get the action they need. What I usually end up doing is counseling the parent to return to the chain of command and discuss what happened with the adult who was there. So, based upon more than 30 years of helping people in my community resolve their problems with the local school I offer these tips.

• When your child comes home from school crying or complaining about an incident in which they believe they were not treated with fairness, take what they say with a grain of salt. I’m not suggesting that your child is lying. I’m just suggesting that he is telling of the event from his perspective.
• Ask your child the name of the adult who made the decision that presently upsets them. (Bus Driver Bob, teacher Mrs. Cadaver, Coach Dragon) Contact the school and ask for an appointment to meet with that person. You would be surprised how clearer the picture gets when you hear another point of view. We all see better when we use both eyes.
• Don’t go to the appointment mad. Wait a day or two and cool down. If you are angry when you meet, things will not go well. What does the fact that you are angry have to do with the truth? Stay calm, tell the individual what your child has told you and indicate you want to hear his/her perspective before you jump to judgment.
• If, after hearing the other point of view, you are convinced the matter was poorly handled and you were unable to reach some reasonable resolution then you move up the change to the supervisor.
• For most issues, that would be the principal. Make an appointment to see the principal
• If there is no satisfaction from meeting with the principal, then contact me.

Years ago a parent called me to complain about a poor teacher. I asked her what she thought of the principal of the school. She loved him – thought he was a great principal. I told her that from what she was telling me, I would have to fire the principal because he was allowing a poor teacher to continue in the profession. Doing something with an ineffective teacher was not my job, but his. It was my job to deal with ineffective principals.


Jumping to the superintendent over something that could well be a misunderstanding and easily resolved with a little conversation in the classroom is like reaching for the shotgun when all you need is a flyswatter. Make that call. 99% of the issues get resolved at that level. Believe me. You’ll be glad you did and your child will learn how to resolve problems by your example.